With the advent of social media, it is so much easier to get messages out to many people quickly. This can be a good thing, and it can also backfire quickly. When a person dies and this person is not your immediate family member, is it your news to tell first that the person died? I don’t think it is. Here are 3 reasons why.
1. Premature Announcement
The public posting of someone’s death may reach some relatives before the family has had a chance to tell them themselves. Whether the death was sudden and unexpected or the family knew their loved one was dying, I feel it is the responsibility of the immediate family members to let people know in their circles, that their loved one died.
2. Grieving Process
There is a notion in grief theory that endorses the repeated telling of how the person died. This is one of the ways for the family to begin to come to terms with the reality of the death.
It is important to respect the privacy of the immediate family while they are making the arrangements. The family will need time to discuss how they want to celebrate the life of their loved one. The family also needs time to meet with the Funeral Director, sign documents, provide clothing for the deceased, speak with clergy, select music, order flowers, put together a photo collage, and decide who will speak at the funeral.
During this time it can be very frustrating and overwhelming to have multiple messages come in to the family when they cannot likely return the calls or messages.
When the funeral arrangements have been confirmed, and with the permission of the immediate family, then social media is a wonderful tool to get the word out. Many funeral homes will post the funeral details on their website and some families create a Facebook page. This provides a way for people to know the details and post their remembrances to the family.
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