Many people think that deciding that they want to be cremated is the only decision they need to make. Well that is likely the first decision. Cremation is a choice of disposition of the body just like earth burial or entombment in a crypt. But, there are many other decisions that go with deciding this type of disposition. Would you prefer donations in lieu of flowers and to what charity would you prefer money be sent? Do you want a newspaper notice, with or without a photo? What you would like your family to do with the cremated remains?
Perhaps you would prefer a Memorial Service or a Celebration of your Life. In this scenario, the events of a Direct Disposition take place and then a few days later the family holds a service to celebrate your life at a venue of their choice. Will there be a eulogy? If so who will do this? Will there be visiting and a serve before or after cremation? This could be at the funeral home, a place of worship, or a place of significance to your during your lifetime such as the Golf and Country Club.
Or will it be Direct Cremation? This means that the minimum requirements of the Province are met. In Ontario, the deceased is transferred to a licensed Funeral Home and the Coroner signs a Cremation Application. The body is then put into a cremation container and driven to the crematorium. After cremation takes place the funeral home returns to the crematorium to pick up the cremated remains and return them to the family.
Following the lines of a more traditional service perhaps your choice is to have visiting and then a funeral prior to cremation taking place. In this scenario often a ceremonial casket is selected rather than a purchased casket. Many people I worked with do not see the value in purchasing a solid or veneer wood casket to have the entire casket cremated. Rather people see the value in a rental or ceremonial casket. An outer casket of solid or veneer wood looks the same as a purchased casket. The difference is that inside the outer shell is a removable cremation container. When the visiting and service is complete the Funeral Director will remove the inner cremation container holding the body, a lid will be secured and then the container is taken to the crematorium and cremation takes place.
Often if people have decided they prefer to be cremated what to do with the cremated remains is usually something they have not thought through.
When I ask people what they would like done with the cremated remains – there is often a blank look on their face.
There are 4 options:
The cremated remains may be kept at your own home
The cremated remains may be buried or scattered on personal property
The cremated remains may be buried or scattered on Crown Land
The cremated remains may be buried, scattered, or in a niche on cemetery property.
Deciding you would like to be cremated is a great first step. But as you can see, there are other things to consider. It is important to take the time to think this through and discuss this with your family and get help from someone in the funeral pre-planning business.
If you have questions about the choice of cremation, please do not hesitate to contact me. And feel free to send me your feedback. Don’t forget to leave a link back to your own blog too via the commentluv feature here on the site.